Nov. 6, a date you all remember. Whether the election results pleased you or not, political opinions vary across America.

The presidential election, which happens to fall on the same month as Thanksgiving, can cause family tension, especially around politics. Thanksgiving should be a time for gratitude and togetherness where family is the most important thing, but it can become a war zone for opposing views. With political divides, how can we make sure we have peaceful family gatherings during the holiday?

Politics have been known to affect family dynamics. Social media, 24/7 news and political labels make it easy to see how different beliefs can strain relationships, with constant debate and arguments in public forums between those with differing opinions. Family gatherings like Thanksgiving are no exception as relatives from various generations bring their political views to the table.

Studies show political differences can lead to detachment within families. Nearly 40% of Americans reported strained family relationships due to politics, which can make holiday gatherings – typically a time for unity – a source of division.

An effective way to prevent arguments during Thanksgiving is by setting clear boundaries. If you’re hosting, kindly inform guests ahead of time that you’d prefer non-political conversations, focusing instead on celebrating what connects you. Politely ask everyone to avoid sensitive discussions to keep the atmosphere light and enjoyable.

If political conversation does arise, try changing the conversation to neutral topics. Ask about family stories, shared experiences or favorite Thanksgiving memories to steer away from tension without making anyone feel singled out. Personal stories can help keep the mood positive.

Empathy is a great way to defuse tense moments. Instead of reacting emotionally, try to understand, even if you disagree. Ask open-ended questions and avoid personal attacks. By showing that you value the person over their political views, you can keep a respectful dialogue while minimizing conflict.

Sometimes, agreeing to disagree is the best option. Thanksgiving is not the place to start political disputes. If conversations go in circles, try moving on or take a minute to show appreciation for being together, despite differences.

Thanksgiving is about gratitude. Use the holiday to look back on the things you’re thankful for, including your family. Political differences shouldn’t overshadow your deeper connections. This day offers an opportunity to focus on love, family and togetherness.

While there will always be a time for political discussions, saving Thanksgiving as a space for gratitude can ensure that politics won’t affect your most important relationships. As we gather around the table, let’s remember that family bonds are stronger than political divides. By setting boundaries, redirecting conversations and showing empathy, we can make sure that your family remains one where time, joy and connection are everything. 

Nicholas Keller is a columnist. Contact him at [email protected].